I have come to a realization today … I am single and I am happy!
I know a lot of ppl do not quite understand how someone can be happy being single (especially after the “Sex in the City” hoopla) but take it from someone who is living it … it is possible!
I do get lonely sometimes and think it might be nice having a guy around but honestly I have been single forever and I am quite used to doing it all … by myself! Putting things together, lifting things, taking my car in for maintenance, etc. — I have never had anyone to depend on so I cannot miss something I have never been given. I am not saying that’s all a man is around for … trust me, I know what a lasting relationship SHOULD contain and I just simply refuse to settle for a man who will not give me what I am giving him in the relationship!
Now, how am I happy being single? Well, I live my life how I want to and I enjoy doing what I want when I want. I do not have to check with anyone before, during, or after I go anywhere. I can come and go as I please without worrying that I will have to endure the third degree or an arguement when I get home. I know that at home my things are in their place and will not be moved. I do not have to worry where my man is or wonder if he is being faithful.
I know not all relationships are like this and I really do tip my hat to those who actually thrive on values, trust, respect, honesty, chivalry, etc.! If this type of man should cross my path then maybe being “taken” will make me as happy but until then …. living single is simply divine!
Wow, I have to say I agree with every thing you’ve said, and it’s nice to hear someone who agrees with me about not settling for anything less that what is absolutely right. I’ve been single for two years after a long relationship, you sound a little bit more accepting of it than I am, but I just couldn’t bring myself to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t inspire me to give 100%. So here’s to the single life!
Welcome anotherlondongirl! Thank you for your input, keep visiting and posting!
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I value the “old fashion gentleman” and hope one day to be blessed with the love of one but until then I have to be happy with what I have and I am single.
I just know that life is just too short to waste time focused on what I don’t have in my life.
Justice
WOW..I wish I was as content as you are about being single. After being single and dateless for over a year, I’m getting use to it. I have to agree that although I would love a companion, I do enjoy the freedom, not worrying about having an agruement and only having to deal with my own problems. so you stick to your guns.. don’t settle, ever!!
Well, I have just reached this stage this year. I would like to get married, but I only want to do it once so I can’t just marry anyone. Hang in there and don’t give up … but don’t compromise your values either. Take care.
Justice