Friendship is a fickle thing – at one point your friend is the best in the world, and then something changes and before you know it your friend turns on you! You are left wondering why and what happened!
Friends are indeed a special kind of person, which is why I am careful who I consider a real friend. I have been hurt in the past by those I did consider close friends so I have learned from this and protect myself from this happening again. How? Well, that is difficult to explain and even more so to do. I do not blindly trust anyone with everything anymore.
I have found that a lot of friends are “friends of convenience” … they are your friend when it is convenient for them or when THEY need you but they are unavailable when you need them. They are your friend when they need to look/feel important in public or when they need to boost their own ego. These are what I like to call the “sometimey friend”! Watch yourself with these friends … keep your thoughts to yourself.
Has your friend (or former friend):
1. Lied about you or spread rumors about you
2. Was friends with someone you did not like – or who did not like you
3. Told others you cast a bad spell on him/her
4. Asked you to betray others friends for them
5. Done things to hurt your family, job, relationship, other friendships
6. Cut you off without so much as a reason why
7. Told you that you could never afford what she/he has
8. Talked to you like you were an idiot
9. Yelled at you like you were a child
10. Never apologized for any time they have hurt you
How do you get over things like this? How do you ever learn to trust a “friend” again? Well, I do know that I am working on it myself but no matter how much time passes it still hurts. I really wish it did not happen; I wish things were different. I can say that time does heal … sometimes it takes a lot longer than you want it to but I beleive that emotionally your body and mind take the time it NEEDS to heal.
It sucks to realize that you have an empty hole where your best friend used to be, but you cannot control other people’s behaviors, reactions, or perceptions. You can only control your own!!! Follow the moral values of life and live happy!
1. Do not judge others - especially since your own slate is not clean
2. Do not blame others – your reaction to a situation is your own
3. Do not expect others to see or agree with your view – everyone has a mind of their own, beliefs of their own, and opinions of their own
4. Respect others – just as you want them to respect you
Friends are only special if they stick around through the rough times so they are there for the good times. When you are at your lowest point you will find out who your true friends are. Knowledge is power so learn from your past, apologize for your own mistakes, show forgiveness as you will no doubt need the same someday, and strive to do better.
Peace, love, and harmony!
¥ Namaste
A good lesson learned.
Letting go of a toxic friendship can be so freeing.
I see people who must surround themselves with as many friends as possible, and I always wonder how many of their group are “true” friends.
I’ve always been selective with my friendships; I’d rather have a small circle of true, real friends than a large group of acquaintances. I’d rather focus my energy on the former rather than the latter.