Circle of Trust
The concept of the Circle of Trust is the same concept instilled in the wedding band … a never-ending circle that remains unbroken.
Relationships are supposed to be based on this exact concept. Which relationships? All of them, to put it frankly! Parent-child, siblings, friends, lovers, neighbors, co-workers, teacher-student, coach-player, employer-employee, humans, etc. Any relationship type you can think of fits into this philosophy!
Trust is something that should be natural but has become an extremely rare trait! People are nothing like in the ‘good ‘ol days’ when a handshake was your word and your word was your bond! People today are self-centered, selfish, and do not seem to have a conscious or moral values! They appear to have developed a lack of regard for human life and feelings of others. These kinds of people are everywhere!
1. Some are so obvious you can spot them immediately
2. Some put on a facade and pretent to be your friend, smile in your face and talk about you behind your back
3. Some will make shit up just to cause drama, or to keep it going
4. Some will lie and steal from those that trust them
5. Some will let jealousy rule their lives and clandestinely scheme to destroy that which you cherish
These kinds of people revel in the present, thinking they are justified in their actions, words, and behaviours … but the Divine and Karma are not fooled and although it seems alright now, the Divine will unleash Karma and she will bite you in the ass when the time is meant! This kind of thing happens far too often and I take solace in knowing the Karma always prevails in the end.
I have personally witnessed the ramifications of misplaced trust – placed in individuals who caused irreparable damage! One who took the word of new friends over trusting an almost decade old friend!
I have a small – extremely small by choice – Circle of Trust! This does not by any means suggest that I do not have any friends, it does, however, indicate that I have learned from my mistakes of misplaced trust and know better than to include fake friends in my circle again! Contrary to what certain individuals say – the truth is that although I may not have a lot of money, my life is definitely wonderful, my kids are totally great and close to me, and we are absolutely happy!
Now, what can you do to prevent yourself from becoming the victim of someone’s malicious torment (like I have been – and, unfortunately after 3 years, still am)? Well, you may not be able to do much of anything if someone is determined to/hell bent on cause(ing) problems, but you can disassociate yourself with those people that are obviously trying to play both sides of the fence!
1. Dump those fake friends – you do not need them!
2. Do not have any conversations about your own personal things to anyone that you are suspiscious of playing both sides, talk about general, unimportant crap! — To test them, tell them something you have not said to anyone else, watch and see/listen/read their posts a few days/weeks later to see if the other person has been told. THAT is how you sniff out a FAKE FRIEND!
3. Always keep your guard up! DTA – Don’t Trust Anyone!
I will never be someone’s toy or game piece again! Will you?
Good post! Sadly, I’ve seen how some of my hubby’s family members have betrayed his trust, but he still loves them. He tells me he knows they will be there for him whenever he needs. I do not find these words comforting. They pretty much only contact him when they want something and I think they only care about themselves. I put on the happy face around them but keep them at a distance.
I, too, have self-centered family members that only call when they want something. I have distanced myself because I am just not like that and have a hard time saying ‘no’! I make sure my kids understand that family is there for each other and it’s not all about ‘you’ so we are pretty close to each other. I hope as they become adults (my son will be 18 in 5 months) this will never change! :]